Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Why the Mean Comments?

For the most part I love writing this blog. I wish I had time to do it more often. I get amazing feedback via email from women (and a couple men) about how my blog has helped them. Inspired them or made them feel just less alone.

And then there is this one:
"Odd that your IQ level is so high, but you don't know the difference between "to much" and "too much." Check the "Sleep Sleep Sleep" post at the top of the page."

Seriously ... I don't believe that I ever said on here that I had a high IQ (maybe I did but I doubt it). I write stream of consciousness and sometime I type too fast. Maybe instead of making a snide comment you could send a nice message like - "I was reading your blog and noticed a typo I wanted to bring to your attention: XYZ.:

This comment was left for me months ago and it still bothers me. So there it is ... if you don't have something nice to say, then don't say it all all.

I have put very vulnerable information out here on this blog. And to receive criticism about grammar is ridiculous. I would much rather read and email criticizing me as a mother than my grammar.

Soon I'll have some new posts about being a bipolar mom and issues with medications.

If you ever have a question ... drop me a line at bipolarpregnancy @ I am willing to help in whatever way I can.


postpartummom said...

That is the most horrible thing I have ever heard. I swear people who are mean and critical (especially over minor silly things) are 100X more unhappy and critical of themselves. I hope you can ignore the one mean-spirited comment and focus on the MANY, MANY women you have helped with your open and honest blog entries. Being vulnerable is not easy, but if you're not real...people sense that. This blog is so real and hits home for me. Thanks again for sharing.

Unknown said...

Thank you postpartummom. Your kind words have brought a smile to my face

Jane said...

I think some people enjoy being mean to others. I have been blogging for over a year on various sites, and out of one year, I had two or three really rude comments.

I took the first one really hard, and then after awhile I realized that some people are so miserable that all that makes them happy is criticizing and hurting others.

So I would say just forget about them - don't let them win in terms of getting under your skin. Put more focus on the people who you have influenced in a positive way.

~ Jane

Anonymous said...

I understand how you feel, and you would think the more casual conversational flow of your blog would allow for the occasional grammer faux pas. As far as preferring to be criticized for how you raise your child than on your grammer- wow. I can't stand to be criticized as a parent- it's so frustrating! I guess we each have our soft spot. I definitely have mine as a bipolar mother. Take care and thank you for this blog.

Anonymous said...

I was diagnosed with bipolar this past summer. I'm not a mom yet but it has always been in the plan. I attend a BP support group and there is a new mom in the group. I would love to pass your site along to her and it also gives me hope for myself someday! Thank You!

Girl Black said...

Correcting a minor thing like "to much" AND making a big deal out of it now that's just silly. Clearly it was a typo anyway! I just came across this word, don't know if you've heard of it, but it describes this behavior perfectly. ;) Crude language though.

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